Posts Tagged ‘mentor’

Revitalizing Resolutions—Making a Commitment to Others

As we close in on the end of January…how are those resolutions going for you?

I don’t want to come from the jaded, pessimistic place of “Done and dusted—resolutions don’t work” that informs so many memes and conversations, but history and culture-following science and surveys show that by week three or four of January, most have fallen off the resolution wagon.

I can point you toward hundreds of coaches who will each tell you ways to stick to it and truly commit to yourself…but that’s not why we’re here together.

I would, however, like you to consider adding a resolution and re-committing to this one over and over.


  1. Exercise more
  2. Lose weight
  3. Get organized
  4. Learn a new skill or hobby
  5. Live life to the fullest
  6. Save more money/spend less money
  7. Quit smoking
  8. Spend more time with family and friends
  9. Travel more
  10. Read more

I love these—what amazing goals and intentions.

If you are recognizing yourself in one or more of these, congratulations on your engagement and commitment to improvement. I think it’s safe to say any one of these is worthy of your energy and attention and follow through.

I’d like to suggest we add an eleventh “TOP” resolution to the list (OK, I’ll admit, if we’re ranking, I’d like to push it to the number one spot on the list):


I like how Justice Sonia Sotomayor, when speaking of her new children’s picture book (Just Help! How to Build a Better World) says, “Every day, you can make a difference by helping someone. Each time you do, you become part of something bigger than yourself.”

This doesn’t have to be an earth-shifting change. You don’t need to sacrifice comfort or happiness or ease—just give up a slice of selfishness (and we are all selfish on several levels—not casting aspersions). OK, slight correction, because, in some ways, our selfishness does provide us comfort. So, you don’t need to shed it all, just commit a slice to someone or many others outside yourself.

We have concentric circles.

  • Self
  • Family
  • Home
  • Work and co-workers
  • Neighborhood
  • Community of place or activities (might also include spirituality and politics)
  • Those who share our identity definitions
  • National identity
  • And we can go on and on…species, resident of the planet, part of the galaxy, universe, etc.

Within those circles, it doesn’t take much to find someone to help. To show kindness. To connect. To be inspired by and to comfort. And, we all know, the person being of service ALWAYS gets more out of the exchange than the person being served.

There is so much to discover about claiming and fueling your power when you are of service. Each day, just finding a way. Asking yourself, “How and who can I help today?”

Hold a door. Tell someone you’re thinking of them. Give a compliment. Express gratitude. Make a choice or a change for the planet. Sign up for a volunteer gig. Mentor. Donate to a cause. Encourage someone. Pick up trash. Over-deliver what someone is expecting from you at work or home. Think added value. Say “I love you” first.

At the end of the day, being able to say, “Because of me…this, and I added more to the world than I took” is an incredible feeling.

We all want that. Each night. That.

Celebrating National Youth Confidence Day

How are you feeling today?


Now, how are the young people around you feeling? Strong, prepared, confident, centered, inspired? Hoping ALL of those are reflective of how the young people in your life are feeling because today is National Youth Confidence Day. (October 20)

Are you parenting, grandparenting, aunt&uncling, teaching, coaching, mentoring, caring in general about kids? This is a day to ramp it up a bit more. Make an extra effort on top of your already Herculean strides to support the success of youth.

Can you do an extra reach out to check in on someone who has been having a rough go of it lately? An action-step email to the group or class to carpe their diems? A simple note or conversation that says, “I see you and I am better for having you in my world”? Just sit quietly next to someone who needs your presence if not your input? You can hold a huge space for another from afar to let them know, in no uncertain terms, that how they are feeling right now is exactly right and OK and, if change is desired, evolve-able.

Acknowledge the heck out of everyone you see today, taking extra care to stoke the coals of youth. It is an investment in the workability of the world for all of us.

Happy National Youth Confidence Day!

How will you celebrate? (I’d love it if you dropped a comment to share ideas).

Seuss is Loose—Read Across America to Celebrate the Good Doctor’s Birthday

Theodor Geisel, better known to most of us as Dr Seuss, had a birthday yesterday. March 2 would have been his 110th natal celebration. Because it was Sunday and on Sundays we do Sunday things, the powers that be decided to celebrate today, Monday, March 3 instead. Today is Read Across America in celebration of Dr Seuss. The National Education Association4686 is in on the act, creating events far and wide to motivate readers to make books a lifetime habit. All week there are reading events with schools, libraries, and community centers for readers young and old. Jump in and find out about what’s going on in your neck of the woods–can you volunteer to read aloud to kids, tutor a student, do a book swap, or more? There is a boatload of resources here, to help support you in pitching in.

“You’re never too old, too wacky, too wild, to pick up a book and read with a child.”

Happy Birthday, Dr Seuss!

Here’s an Idea–What If We Empowered Girls…

…instead of disempowering them?

By now you’ve heard the flack about the JC Penny t-shirt that was being sold in the girl’s department (no longer for sale) emblazoned with the pathetic phrase, “I’m too pretty to do Homework…so my brother has to do it for me.” Talk about a back-to-school FAIL…but the department store got it right and took action, taking it off the shelves and website, agreeing it was a lapse in judgment to put that message out there for young women.

I wish the balance of the universe was such that for every step backward like that (because that shirt was designed by someone after a pitch meeting to a group of decision makers, who said, “Sure, let’s mass produce that” then put through the many steps of production and distribution and marketing…and nobody thought better of it) there was a great step forward, like the work of WriteGirl. Here is a non-profit organization for high school-aged girls who are mentored by professional women writers and learn greater expression and empowerment through creative writing. Potential volunteer mentors can find out more here, but even if your life’s work is not wordsmithing, you can still support this valiant cause. The power that comes form discovering that you have a voice, and not only a voice, but a voice with important and true and beautiful things to say, is an amazing revelation. May every young person have that Ah-Ha moment early, and repeatedly. We all just want to be heard and seen–it’s not so much to ask, really, is it?